A Royal Mindset

January 15, 2024


He was born a prince


One of the princes of the official royal household of his tribe


His father was the King before he died


After his death, the kingmakers crowned a prince from another family within the royal household


There were four of them


Four royal branches from which the King was chosen


His father, His father’s older brother, His Father’s Step Brother, and His father’s younger brother’s family


It was a bit complicated but the Kingmakers trust the deities to choose the right price to be crowned whenever the throne was vacant


Sometimes they drag the issue to the court of law


If any of the princes feel the process has been compromised by the kingmakers in any way


There were set rules for throwing your hat into the ring to become a King and for conducting yourself as a crown prince


There are many crown princes in the kingdom at the same time


Because the Kingmakers can choose any one of them


There was no particular order to choosing who reigns


The kingmakers are human


They simply sit down and look at which of the princes had the best prospect of leading the kingdom at the time


Education, Wealth, Popularity, Charity (Having a willingness to sacrifice one’s interests for the people)


Morality – (maintaining a high moral order in one’s personal conduct)


Altruism – (being generous towards the people, avoiding selfishness),


Honesty (fulfilling one’s duties with loyalty and integrity)


Gentleness (being kind and gentle, never arrogant)


Self Control (to perform one’s duties with dispassion)


Non-Anger (remaining calm in the midst of confusion and chaos)


Non-Violence (Being non-violent, not persecuting the people)


Forbearance (Practicing patience in one’s duties)


Uprightness (Respecting public opinion, promoting harmony)


The kingmakers claim they consult the deities but it is a known fact that the deities are simply an excuse to persuade those who desire to disagree with their choice to take it up with the gods


It is not expected that everybody would be persuaded by the choice of who the king should be


In every contest, there would be a winner, some losers, and in some cases one or two extremely sore losers


The royal princes were raised to embody the characteristics listed above from childhood


They were not allowed to be trained or raised by their natural mothers who came from different backgrounds and could their training by their upbringing


They were all raised by royal instructors and guardians who not only trained them but also observed them to be sure they adhered to the teachings in every way


The kingmakers take their duties quite seriously


They observe all the princes from childhood in a dispassionate manner so that when the time comes to choose, they will not be persuaded by the moment but by knowledge


He knew all these while growing up and he kept to the principles of his training


He was a software test engineer by profession and he had a contract with the Department of Defense of a country which netted him a good income every year


He married early and had three children but lost his wife to childbirth in the eighth year of his marriage


He decided to raise his children as a single parent for a while


Nurture them with the help of the royal governesses and trainers


He had a string of relationships but it was nothing serious


He was involved in the politics of the kingdom, involved in the life of the people


Even though he was not the king at that time, the king was old and the crown princes must all do whatever they could to ensure that the King got all the help he needed in steering the ship of their kingdom in the right direction


He traveled to his kingdom often, even though he lived abroad


And he ensured the physical distance he had to the kingdom was not felt at all by the people


Then he met her


A lady from his tribe who took his breath away


She was not only beautiful, she was an Amazon


She was an accountant by training and from the moment he saw her, he felt her head looked just as if it was made for the crown


She didn’t give him any stress


She was thirty, he was forty-five


She had never been married and desired to be his bride


He got married to her


She was not working at the time and asked if she could help him manage his finances


He agreed


As soon as she started handling his finances she noted a lot of expenditures that she felt were questionable


This amount to this family monthly, that amount to that family monthly, a certain amount to another family annually, etcetera


He was spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on charity cases in his community annually


It made no sense to her


How could someone be spending like this?


Even if the money was flowing down from Tigris and Gihon, a man ought to be accountable and spend wisely, she reasoned


She had nothing against charity but spending that much in her opinion was way too much


She began to cut off the funding one by one


The number of students in his community whose education he was sponsoring both locally and internationally


The number of clubs that made him their patron just to collect free money from him


The number of families he was sending financial support yearly


It was exploitative and ridiculous


She confronted him about it and it led to a huge fight


She called him a spendthrift who was wasting scarce resources to seek validation from people who had nothing to offer him


Her argument would have been valid if he was not of noble birth


Nobility requires that those who have no hope must look up to it


Absalom understood this in the scriptures and it worked for him with the children of Israel


Royalty must be persuasive and engaging, once it is perceived as aloof and condescending or elitist, it becomes a reproach to the people


Peasant mindsets find this difficult to understand


This is why royalty is a deliberately cultivated lifestyle


2 Samuel 15


15 After this, Absalom bought a chariot and horses, and he hired fifty bodyguards to run ahead of him. 2 He got up early every morning and went out to the gate of the city. When people brought a case to the king for judgment, Absalom would ask where in Israel they were from, and they would tell him their tribe. 3 Then Absalom would say, “You’ve really got a strong case here! It’s too bad the king doesn’t have anyone to hear it. 4 I wish I were the judge. Then everyone could bring their cases to me for judgment, and I would give them justice!”


5 When people tried to bow before him, Absalom wouldn’t let them. Instead, he took them by the hand and kissed them. 6 Absalom did this with everyone who came to the king for judgment, and so he stole the hearts of all the people of Israel.


7 After four years,[a] Absalom said to the king, “Let me go to Hebron to offer a sacrifice to the Lord and fulfill a vow I made to him. 8 For while your servant was at Geshur in Aram, I promised to sacrifice to the Lord in Hebron[b] if he would bring me back to Jerusalem.”


9 “All right,” the king told him. “Go and fulfill your vow.”


So Absalom went to Hebron. 10 But while he was there, he sent secret messengers to all the tribes of Israel to stir up a rebellion against the king. “As soon as you hear the ram’s horn,” his message read, “you are to say, ‘Absalom has been crowned king in Hebron.’” 11 He took 200 men from Jerusalem with him as guests, but they knew nothing of his intentions. 12 While Absalom was offering the sacrifices, he sent for Ahithophel, one of David’s counselors who lived in Giloh. Soon many others also joined Absalom, and the conspiracy gained momentum.


Abigail had a royal mindset, this was why David married her


Absalom also understood how royalty works


A royal mindset does not see the people it has been placed over as leeches


A royal mindset counts it a privilege to be able to serve and be a blessing to the people


She however didn’t get this mindset


Being raised by poor parents, she had to hustle her way to the top and she couldn’t understand why so many people were living off him


She ensured that he closed down as many “holes” in his pocket as possible and those who managed to get anything out of him had to go through her scrutiny before they got the help they needed


This went on for six years and then the King died


He immediately travelled to their kingdom to pay his condolences and throw his hat into the ring as a potential King


When he got to his kingdom, he found himself being resisted on every side


The people who used to welcome him didn’t show up


The ones that used to come calling didn’t show up


He travelled home like an ordinary man


He felt isolated and unwelcomed by all those who used to celebrate him


Later in the evening, he went to see the kingmakers to discuss his intention to enter the fray


They told him they had consulted the deities and he should not bother getting into the race because the deities had rejected his wife




How did his wife come into play?


The people were persuaded that since he married this new wife he had become aloof and disengaged from the community


They didn’t want his wife as their queen


They did not want a woman like that deciding their fate while lying on the bed with the king


It was a huge blow to his ambition


He returned home and filed for divorce from his wife immediately


She wondered what she did wrong


He tried to explain it to her but she didn’t understand it


Some things cannot be explained but are yet true


She had saved him a lot of money but most likely cost him the crown


She didn’t know what one had to do with the other


She didn’t know this because she was not of royal stock


Royalty is a training, a conditioning, a mindset, and a persuasion


Nobility is a way of life


PS: They got a divorce


He paid her handsomely for the six years they spent together


She was also given custody of her son and daughter


He consulted with the royal families close to his kingdom


He found himself another wife, one of royal birth and royal training


He married her


The Kingmakers delayed the process for six months until he had remarried


For they would never have allowed him to enter the race as a bachelor


It was against their custom


Finally, along with eight other crown princes he was allowed to throw his hat into the ring


He also had to do a lot of damage control with the people who had felt slighted by his conduct towards them while he was married to her


Six months after he threw his hat into the ring, he was chosen as the next King of the kingdom


She still did not understand what she did so wrong that she was shown the door


Again, being royal is a mindset


Those who lack it have no place on the throne



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