Discretion is Wisdom
Christian leaders at all levels should
take time to look at the Word
themselves instead of making conclusions
as to their course of action based
on what the ‘fathers’ have handed
over as doctrines.
As @GbengaWemimo often says,
in the interpretation of scriptures.
I remember several years ago when
I was pastor of my fellowship in the
university, a young lady walked up to
me to confess her indiscretion during
the holidays (she wasn’t dragged o!
She came herself). She told me
she slept with an uncle.
Zealous me said we were taught as
doctrine that “them that sin, rebuke
before all so that others may fear”,
a scripture taking from 1 Timothy 5:20.
In my immaturity, I wanted to discipline
an erring worker even though
I had restraint in my spirit, but
I was consumed by the wrong context
In which the scriptures had been handed
down to mean public rebuke of sins
will deter such actions. Instead of
calling her out before all the workers,
I decided, because of the restraint I had,
to rebuke her before her unit members
and suspend her from being a worker.
Even though I charged them to
keep this within the unit (as if
the human mouth is capable
Of closing when there’s gist), it
boomeranged badly. She became
the talk of the whole fellowship.
This affected her badly.
She was stigmatized. She came to
me for help and I threw her to the
lions because of a wrong interpretation
of the word. She started to withdraw
and drawback (who wouldn’t after
being ripped apart when she needed help).
When I got to realize the turn
of events for her, the damage had
been done. I heard God tell me
that if she drew back and lose her
relationship with Him, He would personally
hold me responsible. I spur to my feet
and engaged in repeated follow-ups.
Thank God she made it.
It was a vital lesson for me
because God made me realize that
the lady needed help, she knew she
was wrong, she battled with guilt and
saw me as the only person that
She could confide in and get guidance
towards restoration and recovery and
After that episode, I learned to listen
to God and handle each case individually
as directed by His Spirit and because of
this, the religious ones saw me as
‘backslidden’. One even told me
to my face one day, “I used to
see the glory of God on you but
now, I don’t see it again.”
I couldn’t even get angry. I only
asked the person to please remember me
in prayer before God the next time
she prayed so that God could restore
the glory. I hurt a soul for
misinterpreting scripture and wrongly
handed down by religious zealots.
Later, I realized that Apostle Paul was
referring to elders that sinned.
The admonition to Timothy, was not to
entertain an accusation against an
elder but if the elder continued to sin
in spite of confirmation from two or
three witnesses, such elders should
be publicly rebuked.
After I learned my lesson the hard way,
God taught me to be empathetic and
restore erring but repentant believers
This had been my way and
God has brought joy and restoration
to many while relieving them of their
burden of guilt.
God is only a prayer away
and He loves you despite
what you’ve done. If you’re
carrying a weight of guilt and you
need someone to talk to, I am
right here to listen and pray with you.
If you’ve not experienced the
love of God, I need not say more;
you’re missing so much.
As in, where have you been?
You need to know that He loves you
beyond your imagination.
Reach out to my DM and
I will let you see how much
you’re loved and needed.
There’s no brokenness that God
can’t fix. He’s the only one I
Lift up your head. God is right
Live loved, He cares and so do I.